Thursday, January 29, 2009

Things to pass on...

I wrote this at Writerscafe.org a while back-around the time Little Joe was born! It is kinda cheatin', but I can copy and paste with the best of them!


Miscellaneous thoughts

We all learn things as we journey through life. Being a little past the midpoint of mine, there are some things that I want to share. I have no credentials, no expertise beyond what anyone else has, so take these things for what they're worth. These are a few things I would tell my children...if they ever cared to listen!

1. Money Matters. I know there are people out there saying that it doesn't, but it does. Having money makes things easier. When you can live day to day without worrying how to pay the mortgage, fix the car or pay for dinner, its easier. It opens the world to you, allows you to enjoy life, travel, eat well and do all the things you enjoy. There is no nobility in poverty regardless of what the monks tell you.

2. Money isn't everything. Don't define yourself by the size of your bank account, house you live in, car you drive or who's fashions you wear. Those material things that people obsess over never truly improve your life, they just become shackles that restrain your creative and spiritual side. If you spend your life collecting the latest and greatest stuff, you will never be happy. They just keep making more of it.

3. Everything in moderation. Eating, drinking, smoking and sex are all okay, as long as you don't go overboard. Having a delicious meal is great-being a glutton will kill you young. Drinking is good for the soul-drunkeness will ruin your life. If you enjoy an occasional cigar, cigarette or pipe from time to time that's fine-the Surgeon General can tell you what 2-3 packs a day will do to you.There are few things more fulfilling than a great sex life-frequently jumping into bed with various random strangers cheapens you.

4. Always be reading something. Have a book that you are reading at all times. Fiction or non-fiction doesn't matter. If you read a book a day or it takes you two months to finish doesn't matter, just have something that you pick up and read. Reading is very different from watching a movie. In a movie you are seeing and experiencing the story as the director sees it. When you read, you create your own pictures. It's exercise for your mind.

5. Take a walk. No, this is not the exercise portion of this treatise. Just put on some comfortable shoes and walk through the city, countryside, your neighborhood or along the beach. Look and listen at life around you. Let your mind wander. This is even better when holding hands with someone you care about.

6. Spirituality is divine inspiration, religion is man made. I'm not telling you what to believe in and my children can attest to that. I apologize to all the hard core church goers out there, but religion is at best a poor attempt to explain a force that is unexplainable and at its worst a means to control a group of people. Be cautious when trusting proclamations made from the pulpit, they often spring from ulterior motivation. Don't be afraid to think for yourself, you are just as qualified as they are.

7. There are more things worth dying for than there are things worth killing for. Wouldn't it be a better world if everyone understood that? Seems simple to me but if you watch the nightly news, you'll see that it is becoming more and more difficult for people to grasp.

8. Work. Work is good for the soul. Accomplish something. It matters less what it is than that you do it well.

9. Play. Play is good for the soul. Have some fun. It matters less what it is than that you enjoy playing it.

10. Laugh. Laughter is good for the soul. Find things funny. It matters less what makes you laugh than that you find humor in life.

11. Love. Love is good for the soul. Spend time with someone you love. It matters less who it is than that you allow yourself to truly love them.

12. Live. Everybody says this, but what does it mean? Life isn't the big moments, the great vacations, the big house or the expensive car. Life is all the little moments strung together. The small joke with a friend or co-worker. The movie that made you laugh or cry. Telling that special someone something significant about your day. The night out with friends. Time spent alone in contemplation. If you only live for the big things, most of your life will be wasted.


This is my list, not of the most important things but of things to consider. All of us make our lives what they will be and you may not agree with me on any of this. That's okay with me. Hmmm...maybe that's #13.....

5 comments:

Shadow said...

great for the kids. but good for me too, thank you!

Mona said...

This is a great post Mike! Very insightful and thought provoking!Indeed money does matter in as much as it keeps the worry and stress at bay.

Then again money is not everything, because it cannot buy you the most important things, like health, happiness, love, sleep,peace etc. I always feel that misery lies not so much as in being poor or unhealthy as in the want for more & more. They say that even heaven could be improved upon! You are spot on when you say that our needs can never be met if we are 'needy' since they always keep making more...

Yes, balance in everything is the key for a healthy and successful living!

& reading does exercise your imagination and makes you 'creative' in helping you develop your own point of view, or even a philosophy...

Walking is indeed getting in touch with your environment and feel the bond with it! It is greatly energizing experience, both physically & spiritually!

Indeed I agree, Belief is theoretical . We must trust in our own inner strength of spirituality and be able to judge and differentiate between virtue or vice. It makes us not only more aware, but also more human and understanding of others. Beliefs are blind faith in which people want truth to conform to their herd mentality, rather then they conforming to truth. People get hooked to religion for solace. True it might console you, but it can never liberate you!

Work laugh, play, live... do each in a way such that when you do one, you do them all!

I love this post Mike!

Gosh! My comment has gone too long!

Lulda Casadaga said...

This is some good advise that we all should read...you need to get this out to more folk. :)

MIke Kilgore said...

Thanks shadow and Luida! Mona-you could never go on too long!!

jadey said...

Nicely done Mike and I hope they do care to listen actually I can tell you from personal experience even if you think there not listening they are.